TVC Life: How To Breathe in a World of Chaos


As a kid what did you want to be? A ballet dancer? An actress? A lawyer? 

I wanted to be a 'spaceman' when I was six (a story that my family love to tell). I didn't know that women could go to space, so I was going to be the first. That was until my mother told me about Valentina Tereshkova  - who made it to space in 1963, a whole 30 years before my birth - that is, and then I went about setting myself a new dream because that fine woman rocked that one. 

It was then that I learned about Dr Stephen Hawking. I was instantly hooked. I didn't obviously understand his work yet, but that was my gateway to my passion in the world of Physics. And that was my dream, to be his assistant. I 'applied' for the role (by writing him a letter - of course) at just aged 12 and obviously I never got the job. It was then that I realised that no dream is too big, and out of reach. I mean, who else do you know has a letter from Stephen Hawking? 

So where did we lose that vitality? The enthusiasm to run in the door and tell your parents that you got an A+ on a test, or you made something cool in Art class? Or in my case, made a bridge out of spaghetti and marshmallows that could hold a weight (I was that kid okay...).   

As we get older our bills get higher, responsibilities become more apparent and the desire to reach for the stars becomes clouded. But why does this happen? 

Recently I feel like I found that passion again. May it be a line of positive circumstances or a shift of luck, I can now finally say that I am happy. Which is funny as I feel that me personal achievements right now are outweighing my professional achievements, and that feels great!

I have had a rough few years, and there were times that it felt like it couldn't get any worse. I got so lost in what was going on that I forgot to breathe. And I feel like that is essential to life. We all go through tough times, get so stressed out that we all feel like we can't see the end of the tunnel. That's life. But letting some of it go and learning how to breathe is what has kept me afloat.

I've learned how to live in every moment and cherish it. I used to be the person that was always on the go, I never stopped, looked at what I had and relished in it. I feel like now that I have a dog I am seeing her discover new experiences, and it has brought a new perspective. I know when to take a step back, look at the world and be grateful for every moment. Watching her live in every moment really made me think about how I should be living mine.  

So all you have to do is breathe right? Well yes, in theory. Be it a long walk or taking time out for yourself to gather your thoughts. Do what makes you happy. Take time out of every day, week and month to re-evaluate and release your tension. 

At the end of every day, when I'm just about to turn out the lamp and go to sleep, I look up at the stars and let my problems fall into perspective. If I place my problems in the star and then look at how small the star is, and how big space is, there is something about it that soothes me. That may sound ridiculous to you, and your way of relaxing may not work for me, and that's okay. You will find ways that work for you and when it does it will feel magical. I'm not saying that you will be insouciant overnight, but it will begin to ease over time.

However in the meantime, there are some things that I found helpful on this journey;

- What happens on Instagram is all for likes. No one lives that life. We all have bad days, but why would you broadcast them to the world? That's why lives on Instagram (or social media in general) look perfect. I believe that this trend in 'look what I have' media posting, breeds a generation that thrives on cupidity. We don't need everything we see on Instagram. And your life is worth a lot more than you think. Try and distance yourself from comparing your life to someone else's.

- Keep a diary on things that made you happy. Even if it is a note on your phone. I keep a list of memories that provoke happiness to me so that I am never too far away from a smile.

- Stop and smell the roses every once in a while. If you have an opportunity to do something then do it. And live it. Take pictures, share them with the world, relish in your moment. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to smile. 

- Never stop dreaming. Remember that kid? Let them out a little. May your dream be a pair of Prada pumps or to climb the career ladder. Always go for your dream, and never let anything get in the way of that.

- Find your happy place. And breathe.

You are worth more than what you give yourself credit for. You are a beautiful human and deserve all the happiness in the world. 

Breathe. You are doing just fine. 

MH
xx

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