TVC Talks: #Girl Boss




Self-worth is always something that I have struggled with. I used to worry about unpopular opinions and fret about the little things.

I will always be a worrier. Be it an exam, a risky text or to 'what the f**k has my dog just ate'. I'm just that kind of gal. But I will never worry about my self-worth.

As I've gotten older I've found who I am as a person. I'm a foodie. A lover of dogs. Passionate tennis enthusiast. Keen writer. And a hopeless romantic at heart.

But above all, I am a woman.

I am a woman. I'm Scottish. Born and raised. I breathe my country and I am overwhelmingly patriotic to my heritage. I am a woman who has always gone after her goals. Who learns excessively. Who loves unconditionally. And who's heartbeat is the reason that she knows she can always do more. To help more. And to love more.

Through a series of events unfolding, I have learned how to be a woman. Call it a delayed 'coming-of-age'. Or call it self-realization. Call it what you will, as long as you are willing to learn and grow for it.

We have all struggled with a flippant comment by someone in our lives. Be it a bully or an internet troll tearing you apart for your selfie. And while that is most certainly not okay, there was a lesson that my mother told me that helped me become who I am today.

"Don't let them in. Always remember to smile. Never let them see you cry. Never let them win"

And may it not ring true for everyone, for me it was a turning point. Because my mother is the biggest #GirlBoss that I know. The woman that I always knew that had her sh*t together - she obviously got it from my granny, now there's a story!

My mum has always had it together. I always admired how strong she was. And it's only taken me to now, the best part of my twenties, to realise that she was right - and her method was not that hard.

In the millennial lingo, we have the term #GirlBoss thrown about like a hot potato. We flippantly use terms like, 'Queen', "Boss Lady' and the like, without a care in the world. And while these terms are great when you are doing the 'Single Ladies' dance and proclaiming BeyoncĂ© to 'Slay' as your 'Queen', finding the real message and the right person to tag it to isn't so flippant.

In this world full of hate and a long stream of articles explaining the humiliation of young girls in various circumstances, (High School proms, dress codes, and even trips to the supermarket), surely we should be bringing up a generation of strong, independent and #Boss women, who do not feel the need to tear apart their female companions for whatever reason.

The art of being a lady is now somewhat defunct. Much to my upset. Now there is a new trend: The 'Gentle-Woman'. A woman who is not afraid of hate riddled words. A woman who knows who she is and who she wants to be. A woman who avoids needless gossip and refuses to stir the rumour mill. A woman who is kind and spreads love. A modern woman that knows the art of culture, style and appreciates them in turn. A woman who has dynamic dreams and very little fear to oppose them.

This woman knows how to handle a situation comfortably, with minimal damage. She knows when enough is enough. She understands the importance of vulnerability and possible failure, but she doesn't let it define her. She knows the value of a good support network and isn't afraid to admit defeat because she knows how to get right back up again. She may cuss appropriately without a fret and adapt to the changing world around her. She knows how to dress like the most important person in the room. She knows how to handle herself. She fights for what she believes in but doesn't ignore other's opinions. She isn't ostentatious or with a bragging nature. She is the boss because she worked her way there. She earned respect, trust, and loyalty - fairly and lawfully. She will not expect anything for nothing, in fact, she is prepared to roll up her sleeves and help out her team at all times.

This and so much more makes a modern woman, but most of all this woman knows that with enough planning, education, and determination, she will achieve even her wildest dreams. Because she has faith.

Every woman has the opportunity to grow. We all have the ability to spread the message of how to love, to learn and to live like the modern women that we are.

I myself, am a #GirlBoss. And my wildest dream is for every woman on this earth to feel like she can be the best she can be, and to empower her. And I have faith in every one of us.

You are worth it. And you deserve the world. Now go get it!

MH
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