The Live Edit: What It Means To Be A Woman

For me life is simple, you work hard, party harder and always keep yourself in check. Surrounding myself with some of the most powerful women I know, I always had my support ready, and my crew to keep me in line, so I always felt like I could do anything I wanted, and not step on anyone's toes while doing it.

In a world full of Love Island's, The Bachelor's and The Kardashians, we are constantly subjected to female drama, maybe we crave drama that isn't in our actual lives, or maybe its fed to us via the media's drama pot stirring agenda, I'll never know. But after watching three girls tear into one another on Love Island, it's obvious that some people crave the drama.

I'm not bashing shows like this, I actually love them myself but after having drama in my own life I couldn't help but wonder why we subject ourselves to mindless arguments are purely orchestrated to make one person "mug someone off" and the other to "throw shade" back to them, in order to trend on twitter. To me it's baffling.

Take Love Island for example. Here we have a villa filled with six girls and six boys (usually) all battling it out to couple up, find "love" and win £50K in the process. Some girls have found genuine connections a few weeks in with their male counterparts, and are therefore not in any competition, so they are seen as friendly. Others have had their love ripped away from them with no warning or even so much as a "sorry" and they are seen as a threat because they are now single and deemed as desperate.

Is this what we have become? Single and "desperate" women are to be feared?

Back in the villa, we have seen girls and guys romp on national television, bitch fights, serial cheating, and a hell of a lot of grafting, but it only ever seems to be the women who are trending on Twitter over their late-night antics, never the guy is held accountable. Even self-branded love rat Adam, who has famously coupled up with more girls in the villa than he's had a change of boxers, has had the limelight fully pulled away from him in favour to watch a poor girl's mental meltdown after losing him to a new contestant, just days after they've "cracked on". But it wasn't her that cheated, oh no, it was him, and he's nowhere to be seen, leaving the ladies to battle it out for his heart and let the nation watch it unfold.

Even the girls who have had sex in the villa have been slated for doing just that, having sex. The one thing that we all enjoy doing. But she's done it on telly so that makes her a bad person. Wrong.

Imagine this, you meet a guy, things become a bit of a whirlwind and you find yourself falling for him. You think you might take it to the next level, you're naturally curious to know what he's like in bed after a few flirty texts back and forward. You think, "fuck it" and do it, you sleep with him and fall even more for him than you did before.

Would you think of yourself as easy? No, because you did what came naturally.

Now imagine you did that on national television, fell in love in front of a nation and naturally took your relationship to the next level. Did everything you would do outside of the prying eyes of the British public, and enjoyed it unapologetically.

Does that now instantly make you easy? No, because you did what came naturally.

So why do the stiff upper lip of Britain scoff and betray women who show some form of sexual pleasure. Jesus, we all do it. And if you enjoy it or not is your problem. But why should we slag off a young woman for having sex on tv, even though we all do it at home? We are no different.

I blame the standardised media for this. For pitting women against each other from day dot just to fill up column inches and grab headlines. Successful, beautiful women, are constantly made to be at war over men, when in reality we couldn't give a stuff because he was a bit of a loser anyway.

So why are we like this? Why do we thrive on women hating other women? Why do we constantly have to have what she's having? Can't we just be content with being in our own lane?

I respect women who stand up for us in this bullshit world. Who come out and say "yes, she may be seen as competition, but to me, she is my equal", who forego slagging off other women to advance their status or careers, who say no when probed to bitch and sneer at another woman's actions. I respect women who not only stay in their lane by not stealing what isn't theirs (be it men, jobs, promotions, anything) and help other women to advance in their own lane. Because for me, being a woman means we were instantly born into a sisterhood, an unbreakable bond between our sex that mutually acknowledges the struggle, pain and hardship of those that have come before us. Being a woman means I am strong, but not overpowering to intimidate. I'm knowledgeable, but open to know more. I'm ambitious, but I know not to steal someone else's dream.

But above all, I'm brave, because I know when to take a leap, but not to leap into someone else's hard work and achievements.

We aren't all out to get each other. This isn't a "dog eat dog" scenario. We are women, working hard in a world that already has its odds against us. We should be learning from each other. Building up each other. Working together to achieve equality and justice. Not tearing each other down for our own small personal gain. That little gain means nothing if you've torn away another woman's world just for you to get your hands on what is hers for your own selfish agenda.

Ignore the media. Stand up for yourself and for other women and help each other to climb higher. Ignore what they are trying to pit against us. Ignore who wore it better. Ignore the love triangles, the body shaming, the worst dressed lists. Ignore all that bullshit. Erase it from your memory. We are better than that as women. We don't need any of that to make ourselves feel better about our lives. We need to learn that tearing someone down doesn't make us stronger, building them up does.

Because the higher we build up each other, the closer we are to smashing the glass ceiling.

The Interview Edit: My Interview With Girl's Day Out

Ten Minutes With....The Wednesday Edit

Here's my interview with the wonderful team at Girls Day Out - hope you enjoy and make sure to get your tickets here


Here at GDO, we’re all about fashion, beauty, lifestyle and bringing you the very latest in brands, products and trends to look out for.

This year, we’ve been teaming up with some well-known influencers across the industry – proper experts who live and breathe fashion, beauty, hair, makeup and lifestyle every day.

This week we caught up with the lovely Mollie Rose Houston who is the brains behind hugely successful Glasgow-based blog The Wednesday Edit. If you don’t already know of the Wednesday Edit, you can hop on over to her website, where you’ll see honest reviews, opinions, product news and other fabulous content across travel, food & drink, shopping and more.

We caught up with Mollie at our recent GDO photo shoot where she gave us an insight into what it’s like to be a blogger plus a heads up on some of the best brands and products out there at the moment!

Hi Mollie! Thanks so much for taking the time to speak to us. We love the blog and we’re constantly following what you’ve been getting up to on social media – you’re always going to different events and talking about so many products – we’re jealous! How did you get into blogging in the first place?

"I started just over nine years ago and I just wanted to create a space that I could share my love for things that I have found that enhanced my life; from yoga to makeup and everything in between. It’s matured as I’ve gotten older and I’m happy that I’ve been able to tackle some topics that are quite sensitive so I can use my platform I’ve built of the greater good!"

How did you decide what to write about?

"I just started writing! I loved writing so I just opened up my MacBook and got writing about what was in my makeup bag. I’d just had my birthday and was given a Mulberry makeup bag as a gift and I felt like Kate Middleton! So I just got writing and it did so well that nine years later I haven’t stopped!"

What’s the best thing about being a beauty, fashion & lifestyle blogger?

"The fact I don’t have to work at an investment bank anymore! Only half kidding! I think the best thing is I get to do what I love every day. I love writing so being able to write about what I’m passionate about every single day is something I 100% don’t take for granted. I worked so, so hard to build up my blog so I could leave my job and do it full time, so I realise how lucky I am that I can do it. It is hard work, it’s not just about writing. I can work a 17-hour day quite easily! But it is so enjoyable – I love it!"

Describe a typical day for you.

"So I normally wake up around 7:30 and I always make time for puppy snuggles – I have a little dog who follows me about like mad so she always gets a snuggle and a play before we get up.

For the majority of the day I’m either writing, editing, taking blog photos, responding to emails, on shoots for my PR clients, and lots of digital marketing. I also like responding to comments and feedback on my posts or social media so I’ll work on that for a good bit of time.

Every day can be different but right now I have quite a lot of events in the evening to attend so I’ll make sure I can attend them and that my work is done for the day.

But events aren’t always just fun and games, most times I’m working or networking so I’ll find that I’m not back till 11pm at night and I’ve been working since 8am!

As I said earlier, I think because I enjoy it so much it doesn’t feel like work, but there are some days I come home at midnight and melt straight into my bed - ready to do it all again the next day!"

Take us through your daily make-up routine – what are your staple products that you couldn’t live without?

"Right now I’m loving a lighter base. I love showing my freckles off now it’s Summer! So I’m loving the Laura Mercier tinted moisturiser for that.

I never leave the house without some mascara and my favourite is the Diorshow Iconic mascara. It holds a curl in my stubborn straight lashes!

Pixi are also one of my favourite brands, and I love their skincare. I think when you’ve got a great base in your skincare to work with then makeup looks so much better! I love their Rose Oil and their Rose Flash Balm, they are the key to glowing skin!

When it comes to events I always sport a smokey eye, though I’m always a bit too cack-handed on the eyeliner! I love Stila for eyeshadows, they have such a buttery texture and go on like a dream! And my tip for dark haired and eyed people like me is using a purple eyeliner in your waterline - it’s less harsh than a black and brings out the brown so nicely! Chanel Cassis Liner is my go to!"

Do you have any favourite brands right now?

"My fave brand at the moment is Pixi – they are just killing it! I had the pleasure of meeting Amanda Bell a few months ago and she is such a brilliant Artistic Director, she lives for the brand! I think they work well for me because everything is about enhancing what you already have, and I love that!

I also love Nars and Laura Mercier – I actually nearly worked for Laura Mercier way back in the day! I love how Nars always break the mould with new launches and let you have fun with makeup. And Laura Mercier are all about that beauty within, and I love that!"

What advice would you give to anyone who wants to start blogging?

"I think there is so much room for new people in this industry, despite what people say. Blogging can be notorious for drama, bitching and people calling people out, but if you stay clear of that and focus on your journey then you will do well.

You will find those who are in it for the right reasons, and the more you avoid the drama the nicer people you meet.

Always reach out to other bloggers to collaborate and talk to – they can only say no! Having friends in the industry helps make it less insular and lonely, and makes it more fun!

Make sure you find a topic you are interested in, look at what makes you different and you’ll sail through your way to being a top blogger!"

You’ll see Mollie shopping the latest styles at this year’s Girls’ Day Out Show – she’s been a show regular in recent years so do make sure to say hello if you spot her!

You can also follow the Wednesday Edit’s blog and social media using the links below!